If your partner has low-Testosterone (low-T), it might be straining your relationship. You know there are several things about him that have changed. You also realize low-Testosterone causes health risks, and you want him to be in good shape for a long time. It’s a difficult subject to bring up, and can make some men feel defensive. Many women put off having the conversation because they’re worried their concerns will be perceived as criticism. You don’t want him to feel like less of a man, you just want him to take the best care of his health. Here’s how to talk to your man if you’re worried he has low-T.
Realize How Low-T Impacts Your Relationship
You may have felt guilty for all the negative emotions you’ve been feeling. What if all the little things that have hurt you are caused by something that’s out of his control? Low-Testosterone causes these symptoms that can seriously affect a relationship.
- Less interest in sex
- Erectile dysfunction
- Low motivation
- Moods that swing toward depression and irritability
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If your sex life has changed, you may feel like his interest in you is waning. If he has trouble achieving or maintaining an erection, you feel less attractive. His discomfort or defensiveness may cause you both to avoid intimacy altogether.
What used to bring you together becomes a source of anxiety and confusion. When your physical relationship suffers, other aspects may as well.
If your man has symptoms of low-Testosterone, acknowledge the validity of your negative emotions, then let go of the blame. Your man’s problem isn’t about you, it’s the product of a hormonal imbalance that can be adjusted.
Preparing for the Conversation
When you’re going through menopause, you’ll experience dramatic physical and emotional changes. Your hope is that he will educate himself, communicate with you throughout the process, and love you even when you don’t feel your best. This is your opportunity to do the same for him.
Educate yourself on the symptoms of low-Testosterone, the health risks, and the treatment options. Understanding the condition will help you empathize with what your man is going through.
Talking About Low-T
When you have plenty of time to talk, here’s how to have healthy communication.
Start with what you’ve learned
Sometimes getting a conversation rolling is the most difficult part. Pull out a magazine article you’ve read on low-Testosterone and mention you noticed he was having some of the symptoms it detailed.
Make it about both of you
Instead of telling him what his problem is and how he should fix it, emphasize health issues as something you can face together.
Don’t focus on sex. Keep your man from feeling you’re attacking his performance by talking about other symptoms, like reduced energy or feelings of depression. He already knows things have changed. A simple blood test can tell both of you if low-T is the cause of the problem. Encourage him to talk to his doctor next time he has a checkup.
If you’ve been worrying about drastic changes, he probably has, too. If he responds defensively, look for the motivation behind his reaction. Remind yourself he’s struggling with this even more than you are. If you can keep expressing your love for him and your concern for your relationship, you can help him work through his fears to start facing the issue and looking at possible solutions.
Testosterone replacement therapy can resolve low-T symptoms and renew a man’s enthusiasm for activities he used to enjoy. Dr. Mark Neumann offers bioidentical hormone replacement therapy (BHRT) as a superior choice to synthetic hormones.